5 Persuasion Tricks To Get People To Do What You Want.

We all want something, and a lot of times, it involves getting someone's help. Considering how much time we spend trying to persuade or convince others, it's surprising we don't stop more often to think about whether we're using the right methods. So why waste time trying new tactics when we can go straight to science? We've put together some tricks to help you get your way.

1. Explain The Reason For Your Request.

Think about a time you were in a huge hurry and you had to wait in line for something important. You might not have gotten too far if you simply asked, "Can I cut in line?" The likelihood of persuading someone to agree with your request would have increased by more than 50 percent if you had added one thing: a reason. "Can I cut in line because I need to catch my flight?" or even, "Can I cut in line because I'm in a rush?" The greater request, the greater the reason you should provide to truly increase your chances of getting what you want, but a little rationalizing can go a long way.

2. Listen First Then ask For The Favour.

Lynne Franklin is a consultant to executives and teams on persuasive communication, and she discussed the psychology of persuasion"It's called the rule of reciprocity," she told us. "Say something interesting and get them to speak. You learn more about who they are or what they do, They're more interested in reciprocating. I've listened first, now they want to ask me about me. So I've built good will without having said anything.".

This works well with people we've never met, but it's worth remembering that you can talk to someone you already know in order to achieve the same effect. "We as human beings have a tendency to decide what we want people to do and then tell them. And they don't care. They have their own agenda," Franklin explained.

"So how can you present your idea in a way that increases the chances that they'll actually want to do it? And in order to do that, you need to know who they are and what motivates them." You need to understand what they want and find a way to give them that by achieving what you want.

3. Give an actual gift in return for a person help.

Similar to exchanging information, the norm of reciprocity is a social convention that compels people to return a favor when someone has helped them. Charities use this principle when providing unconditional gifts like return address labels or even a pen or pencil, and it can increase donations by up to 75 percent. Just be careful when using this approach: providing external incentives can actually decrease giving in certain situations, particularly when it comes to charity.

4. Switch up the words you are using.

There are a lot of quick and dirty language tricks that, though subtle, can make a big difference when you're trying to persuade someone to do what you want. For instance, try saying "I" instead of "you" to remove the accusatory element of your statements, e.g. "You need to go to the grocery store," versus, "I feel stressed because I have to go to the grocery store."

If you're worried your request will be met with a hard "no," you can also try the magic words "but you are free [to refuse]" to double (!) your chances of getting what you want. And if you're the one saying "no" and you want people to accept your refusal, then say you "don't" do something instead of saying you "can't." This way, the person refusing won't be able to fight you with logic or find a way to turn "can't" into "can." Pay attention to your word choices and you never know what other neat tricks you'll find!

5. Ask in Person.

We all rely on email and other text-based communication these days, but it's never as effective as looking someone in the eye and asking for a favor. And the difference is massive: a pair of experiments conducted by researchers in 2016 concluded that complete strangers receiving a request in person were 34 times more likely to fill out a survey than strangers who were asked over email. If that's not a reason to ditch the keyboard for an IRL conversation, then we don't know what is.

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Want To Be happier ? Do One Creative Thing A Day.

Doing one creative thing each day, be it painting, playing the guitar, or even just cooking dinner, will increase your overall happiness.

Why It Matters?

There's nothing people like more than talking about how busy they are. Between work, family, work, friends, and work, it's all too common for people to complain that they just don't have time for pursuits like drawing or journaling or whipping up a meal. But a 2016 study published in the Journal of Positive Psychology found that we'd do well to make the time. According to the study, engaging in just one creative activity each day can increase your overall well-being, making you more likely to feel "energetic, enthusiastic, [and] excited."

At this point you might be thinking, "But I'm not a creative person, so I guess I'm just doomed to an unhappy life." Not so fast. According to the researchers' definition, "Creativity includes coming up with novel or original ideas; expressing oneself in an original and useful way; or spending time doing artistic activities (art, music, painting, writing, etc)." That's a pretty wide-ranging definition. A press release about the study explained that "the most common examples reported were songwriting; creative writing (poetry, short fiction); knitting and crochet; making new recipes; painting, drawing, and sketching; graphic and digital design; and musical performance."

Those who engaged in these activities didn't just feel better in the moment; they were happier the next day. Ultimately, the researchers found that being creative launches "a particular kind of upward spiral for well-being and creativity: engaging in creative behavior leads to increases in well-being the next day, and this increased well-being is likely to facilitate creative activity on the same day.

Why People Should Know About It .

Three words: Adult coloring books. According to Nielsen Bookscan, 12 million of these books were sold in 2015, and in the 12 months between May 2015 and April 2016, American adults spent more than $128.2 million on colored pencils. For those who haven't caught onto the craze, it might be tempting to write it off as child's play. But, according to the research, we'd all be smart to find some time to bust out the crayons.

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The Perma Model Is a Five Part To Approach To Finding Happiness

We all want to be happy. According to recent analyses of the self-improvement market in the U.S. alone, as much as $549 million per year is spent on self-help books, and self-improvement as a whole could represent a $10 billion per year industry. But what are the actual psychological components that define happiness?

Since 1998, a new field of study has sought to answer this and other questions about human behavior. Positive psychology is "the scientific study of what makes life most worth living," and it examines the biological, personal, relational, institutional, cultural, and global dimensions of life. The goal is to understand how to achieve eudaimonia, a Greek word which refers to a contented state of being healthy, happy, and prosperous.

Qualifying Happiness.

To help us think about what we need to do to flourish, positive psychology pioneer Martin Seligman developed The PERMA Model and described it in his 2011 book, "Flourish." According to Seligman, PERMA describes five important building blocks of well-being and happiness:

• Positive emotions – feeling good
• Engagement – being completely absorbed in activities
• Relationships – being authentically connected to others
• Meaning – purposeful existence
• Achievement – a sense of accomplishment and success

Seligman believes that focusing on all five of these elements can help people reach a life of fulfillment, happiness, and meaning. This model can also be applied to institutions to develop programs to help people develop new cognitive and emotional tools.

But knowing where to focus can be challenging.

"Generally, we have a consistent set of values, but we are constantly changing the way we rank those values based on what happens in our life," professional coach Stella Grizont in a interview.

Grizont was one of the first 150 people in the world to receive a master's degree in Applied Positive Psychology.

"You need to get really clear on describing your values. And values are the guiding principles for how you behave or the decisions you make," Grizont said. "Once we become aware of what it is that drives us, then we realize there are micro moments, opportunities [in our everyday life] for us to deepen them. Your most awesome life might be right there, but you're not always seeing it."

Grizont added that "a big mistake that I see people doing is trying to figure out 'what do I do next?' And I think the better question to ask is, 'How do I want to be?' Typically people will find that there are actually multiple possibilities they haven't explored yet because they haven't asked the right questions."

The Harder You Try Not To "Catch" A Yawn , the more Likely It Is You Will

Scientists aren't quite sure why we yawn, and even less certain of why it's so contagious. It's just an inexplicable compulsive behavior, like how some people feel the need to say, "I don't even own a TV," at the slightest provocation. But a new experiment has found that it's possible to alter the contagiousness of a yawn, and understanding how and why might be the key to addressing the symptoms of Tourette syndrome.

Don't Think Of a Pink Elephant Yawning

As it turns out, contagious yawns work a lot like the old instruction to "not think of a pink elephant." The more you try to follow the order, the harder you fail. In this study carried out by Stephen Jackson, professor of cognitive neuroscience at the University of Nottingham, participants were shown a series of videos of people yawning. Some of the subjects were told they should yawn when they felt compelled to, and the others were instructed not to yawn even if they felt the need

Well, the pink elephants won the day. When the researchers reviewed their data at the end of the study, they found that the people who were told not to yawn actually yawned the hardest. When it came down to actual yawns, stifled yawns, and perceived desire to yawn, the people who had been forbidden to do it came in at the top.

The study uncovered one other interesting tidbit. Not only was telling someone not to yawn a sure-fire way to get them to do it, but the actual intensity and frequency of those yawns turned out to be fairly predictable through transcranial magnetic stimulation (TMS), a method for stimulating nerves with magnetic fields. TMS was used to quantify physiological inhibition and motor cortical excitability — that is, activity in the part of the brain responsible for movement — and turned out to be a pretty accurate predictor of exactly how badly an individual would be affected by an avalanche of yawns.

Stopping Contagious Behavior.

So it's not such a big deal that yawning is contagious. But according to another one of the study's architects, professor of cognitive neuropsychology Georgina Jackson, what they learned about the contagiousness of yawns could have widespread effects on other contagious activities, especially among people with conditions such as Tourettes, dementia, epilepsy, and autism.

"This research has shown that the 'urge' is increased by trying to stop yourself," she said. "Using electrical stimulation we were able to increase excitability and in doing so increase the propensity for contagious yawning. In Tourette's if we could reduce the excitability we might reduce the ticks and that's what we are working on."

You read that right — for now, the scientists have only been successful in increasing the yawning contagiousness. But that is just one step toward a better understanding of why these kinds of behaviors spread in the first place. Now, show this article to someone else, and tell them not to yawn while they're reading it.

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